我的上海咖啡時光

上海相對香港來說讓我覺得最羨慕的, 就是仍能夠保存各式各樣的小店.

尤其這裡的小咖啡店, 都各有特色, 有sell環境有sell咖啡有sell概念的. 你想到的你想要的, 都總能找到.

隨著我在上海生活倒數在即, 決定盡我所能, 拜訪橫街窄巷的各式各樣咖啡小店...

馬家輝在"溫柔的路途"中寫道:
'每到一個陌生的地方, 首先要找的, 不是吃的. 而是附近有沒有好的咖啡廳, 那關乎我一天的精氣來源, 沒有好喝的咖啡, 我就全身不自在, 好像捱不過一天. 如果真的找不到, 那麼星巴克也行, 再沒有, 麥當勞頂著也好, 有時到了偏僻地方, 問有沒有咖啡, 他們說有, 端出來的卻是即溶咖啡, 一杯甜水, 一口都喝不下.'

在看馬博士這段之前, 我不知從何時開始, 就已經是這樣.
只是, 那管是即溶咖啡, 我也會喝.

咖啡對我已言, 早已遠超過生理需要.

就是馬博士說的, '是生活需要'.

from Putong-Cantonification to Communication Breakdown

今晚跟在上海的香港朋友吃了一頓很好氣氛的意大利菜
餐廳在衡山路上的舊式小房子
大概是香港HK$500/位的格調, HK$200/位的食物質素
但埋單只用RMB200/位

國內的說法就是性價比很高
(不要問我什麼是性價比這不是中文.)


今晚席間跟朋友談到的一個有趣話題

我們這些在國內待了一段日子的港人, 廣東話已不再'香港'了.
就是連自己聽了, 再等一下想一想良久但講出來時, 完全係反射行為. 我們已開始習慣以普通話來思考/交流.


想起好幾個星期前跟在國外的香港朋友傾電話...
我問他: '咁你今晚要加班?'
他聽不懂, 我重覆了同一句說話幾遍,
然後他終於反應過來: '哦, 你話OT...乜野"加班"呀...!'


我地開始互相在對方的對話找出這些詞彙...
例如'禮拜五'講成'週五', 'weekend'變成'週末', '上網search野'成為'向網搜尋一下'
而我地第一次聽到係無反應既, 往往要向對方講完, 再過多幾句之後, 先至'嘩一聲'又黎啦...', 又甚至之後由自己發現'哎呀, 好娘呀'...



其實語言係一種好有趣既東西, 同一個意思, 用上不同詞彙, 加上不同排列方式或助語詞, 便可以看出'你是從哪裡來的', '你一定在某某地方住了一段時間', 或者'你一定不是本地人'!


最常遇到的, 莫過於在國內那個地方也好, 只要我一開口說普通話(自問普通話已經算好, 雖不至於正宗, 一定會有人說’你是廣東來的吧...’, 簡直是萬試萬靈.


更不要說同一句說話, 用上相同的用語及語氣, 在不同人而言, 有著不一樣的解釋及意思吧.
Communication breakdown不只局限於不同的語言, 更加是人本身對於語言, 因著成長背景, 文化差異甚至個人經歷而有著不同詮釋的問題.



可能就是這樣, 要找一個能明白自己又能溝通的, 是這麼困難.
又或者能有一個明白自己所表達的真正意思的人, 是這樣困難.



找到了, 要好好珍惜.



P.S. 今晚過得好愉快, 謝謝你的分享.
也是待在上海這地方的港燦才能明白 =P

Song of the Day: 每天都是一種練習

This is my Motto...
and here comes the Theme song.


Of course it's from my beloved Cheer Chen :D


Work hard, for my every day.



每天都是一種練習 - 陳綺貞

好幾天了沒有你的消息
才發現其實想著你
當愛被緊緊的鎖在心底
自由就張開翅膀飛出去

還須要一點幽默的心情
才能面對你失望的離去
快樂的氣氛也許能暫時逃避
卻又讓傷害更徹底

我被恐懼深深的囚禁
我沒有力氣逃出去
每天都是新的練習
用今天換走過去
用明天換走失去的

beyond good and evil

自己說分開的時候, 我也情願承認我是個壞人, 不值得你愛.
讓你憎恨是最容易讓對方放手的方法.

但, 愛不愛, 就是善與惡之分嗎?
如果他/她真的不再愛我,那就是真的'惡'嗎?
因為不愛而離開, 是種惡嗎...?



Quotes, from Essays in Love

'It is surprising how often rejection in love is framed in moral language, the language of right and wrong, good and evil, as though to reject or not reject, to love or not to love, was something that naturally belonged to a branch of ethics.'

'I learnt that humans stood in a relation of negative liberty towards one another, duty-bound not to hurt others, but certainly not forced to love one another if they did not wish......one cannot blame a lover for loving or not loving, for it is a matter beyond their choice and hence responsibility - though what makes rejection in love harder to bear...... is that one did once see the lover loving...... the lover loved, perhaps only a short while ago, which makes the reality of the claim I cannot love you any more all the harder to digest.'



P.S.現在終於明白當年他跟我分開之後的狠心, 可能這是他讓我傷害最少的方法...

just the way (i am)

it may be conindence, i know.

but just feel so warm, with you two unknowingly approaching me for chats tonight, which i desperately needed. :)
and i just want to call you guys tonight!

thanks both...


thanks for reminding me my attractions, and be myself no matter whom i face...


b, i really mean what i said tonight, yea you are irreplaceable. do consider my proposal, okok? :P

That's what I want for now...

There are people in and out of your life...

Some leave without a trace
Some keep dragging making you annoyed
Some remain in your heart forever, although you will never meet again
......

What we do will definitely affect one another, directly or not, I know
that's why we keep on hurting others while being hurt by others

True, and I can't control other's acts nor words...
seems helpless, but... I can control myself, that's what I can do



I don't want to hurt you any more, you have enough from me...


And I don't want to get hurt, that's why I step back miles away from you.



and now... for me, I want to be on my own
Stay strong, stay tough
and I'll be fine.

Song of the Nite: 晚安

很細膩的歌詞...
每一句都讓我想起某天晚上, 睡前的感覺

可能是疲憊工作過後的晚上
與朋友聚會分享過後的晚上
與那時的他一個寧靜的晚上
獨個兒有點迷惑的晚上
......

也是今天的這個晚上


是時候要睡
晚安.




林宥嘉–晚安

天　空白著夜晚
城市一片燈火擾亂
風　吹過看不見的天堂
是誰還在忙碌的追趕
晚安　腦筋都鬆綁
忘掉所有痛苦悲傷
讓所有聽不見的吶喊
隨著黑夜一起埋葬

月　亮在你心坎
可曾把你的夢點燃
心　疼你每一步的成長
擦乾眼淚變得更勇敢
晚安　卸下了翅膀
輕輕打開夢裡的窗
路　儘管依然會有阻擋
讓我陪你一起飛翔

夢　想去的地方
因為不變所以簡單
愛　如果早已經被遺忘
我的歌聲不會有傷感

晚安　靜靜地安躺
躺在可以放心的床
夜　因為有了夢才寬敞
因為有你　所以溫暖

Song of the Nite: Fix You

Can't switch off tonight...
probably it's kinda adjustment taking place.

I need to be strong, to keep moving on the road completely unknown to me...


Song for tonight -
and found out I didn't listen to Coldplay for ages.



Fix You - Coldplay

When you try your best but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try you'll never know
Just what you're worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

I see a stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
I see a stream down your face
And I

I see a stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from all my mistakes
I see a stream down your face
And I

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Life must go on, no matter what

For the time being, please let myself stay away from you, as far as i could.

my life is, for the moment, on my own still...

sounds sad, but i'm sure that there is that someone waiting for me not far far away...
not necessarily you, though.


thanks princess, i dun like to hear your words but it's always the way life should be.

keep learning, Y


i should know how to cheer myself up, no need for other's shoulder for now.

My famiy trip is over...

It's another experience traveling with family... feel bad that my parents get so exhausted to follow my itinerary, next time I should keep slow and adapt their pace...

However, it's contented as I can feel papa & mama so happy with bro and myself accompanying them, this is the happiest thing for all of us.

And it's a meditation journey for myself as well, when we visited to buddist island, Pu Tuo Shan.
... there are things I should just LET IT BE. No expectation on others but just expecting myself. A good reminder for myself anyways.

At times... they were noisy, they re-arranged my apartment which pissed me, they were making me mad at some time of the journey as they didn't follow my schedule.

But when they are gone, when my apartment becomes quiet as usual....

I miss you, lovely bro, papa and mama

Well, it's time for all of us to back to our routine.

Indeed, we should keep it up and have an annual family trip from now on... need some quality time with my beloved family.

:)

reading Essays in Love...

Finally start reading this book...

feeling pessimistic while just reading the first two chapters, but what was written is so true. We are always so used to lied to ourselves when you start feeling good/love towards someone, trusting feelings that are (indeed) created by our own, and having expectations that shouldn't exist?!

Fact is cruel, as always.



Quotes...

'My mistake was to confuse a destiny to love with a destiny to love a given person.'

'Yet we can perhaps only ever fall in love without knowing quite who we have fallen in love with. The initial convulsion is necessarily founded on ignorance.'

Song of the Nite: 記念

下班的時候, 只是好想喝蕃茄薯仔湯而已...

聞著那般香味, 回憶竟然跑到4年前的Brisbane.
原來我上一次煲蕃茄薯仔湯, 已經是4年前...

想起好多往事, 它們已沒有像以前一樣死纏不放過我, 但讓我有種無力感.
不過, 我就是這樣, 每天每天, 學會了一點一點...



那一瞬間 你終於發現
心中的愛和思念 都只是屬於自己




願你一切安好.
日子過得幸福, 快樂.



記念 – 蔡健雅

想念變成一條線
在時間裡面漫延
長得可以把世界
切成了兩個面
他在春天那一邊
你的秋天剛落葉 剛落葉

如果從此不見面
讓你憑記憶想念
本來這段愛情可以
記得很完美
他的樣子已改變
有新伴侶的氣味 的氣味

那一瞬間 你終於發現
那曾深愛過的人
早在告別的那天
已消失在這個世界

也許那一次見面
是生命給你機會
瞭解愛只是人所
渴望的投射面
只是渴望會改變
他的愛已經不見 已不見

那一瞬間 你終於發現
那曾深愛過的人
早在告別的那天
已消失在這個世界

那一瞬間 你終於發現
心中的愛和思念
都只是屬於自己
曾經擁有過
曾經擁有過
曾經擁有過 的紀念

another good year, ahead

this is written in my pocket diary at the start of 2010.
and find out i'll continue to do the same in 2011....

and more challenges are coming

which is good.
:)


another busy year is over and it was a good and thoughtful one and probably...

it had strengthened my belief... i really think something must be done, no matter how busy such as... helping those in need, with my professional knowledge

that's why i'll continue to do this... and hope more colleagues will join us...

and i enjoyed meeting new ppl, those from different walks of life and from anywhere

it's lots of sweat, lots of anger but... lots of fun.

i'm looking forward to a good and exciting year ahead...
challenges are coming :)

昨天晚上我夢見你

我的記憶太差, 究竟是一個什麼樣的夢, 我醒來已經忘得一乾二淨.

我只記得, 從開始至結束, 我都握緊你的手. 緊緊的.

起來的時候, 蠻溫暖的.



雖然是一個不知什麼的夢, 卻感到好溫暖.


是你的手給我的溫暖, 是嗎.



只想記下這種淡淡的溫暖感覺.




p.s.
就因為這樣, 還有你的來電
我今天好開心.
傻瓜.

you'll never learn if...

Quote from Rene Liu's Weibo... so true.

I learned from all my painful experience, and learning to be frank to any wrongs I've done.
Thanks for the pain and the wrongs.

人生中總會不斷的做出選擇，有對的，也有錯的。知道承認就好。最怕自我都蒙蔽，以為那些錯的是對的。不過，不經歷些不好的經驗，怎麼知道什麼是好的呢。還是謝謝那曾經痛苦的過程。

After. Another Year

I want a film, so just randomly chosen this one.. (and for sure that it's not going to be shown in Shanghai...)



It's about life in four seasons for a happily married middle-aged couple, realised themselves surrounded by friends and family members who are indeed living unhappily and even in despair.

The story begins in Spring and ends in Winter, the lives of the characters are so simple but you didn't feel any boredom even it's a 2 hour film.
Maybe the couple is so contented with their lives, it gives a great contrast to their friends and family members that have lost their focus in life.

It's a rather inspiring film... whether you can pursue happiness is not what you have achieved or what you have physically... afterall it's an ATTITUDE.

Strange that the film ends in a low... it really does have some message here.

And the surprising thing... the leading actor is an ENGINEERING GEOLOGIST!!! (he even talked about LONDON CLAY in the film LOL)
I love it. haha...


P.S. And watching film in Hong Kong is MUCH CHEAPER than China!! we are so lucky!

Song of the Nite: 最愛是誰

大了, 才明白這首歌.
剛才在收音機聽著, 竟哭了起來...

有經歷, 才會成長.

P.S. For your sharing, my dear.

最愛是誰 - 林子祥
在世間尋覓愛侶
尋獲了但求共聚
然而共處半生都過去
我偏偏又後悔

別了她原為了你
留住愛亦留住罪
誰料伴你的心今已碎
卻有她在夢裡

為何離別了 卻願再相隨
為何能共對 又平淡似水
問如何下去 為何猜不對
何謂愛 其實最愛只有誰

任每天如霧過去
沉默裡任寒風吹
誰人是我一生中最愛
答案可是絕對

為何離別了 卻願再相隨
為何能共對 又平淡似水
問如何下去 為何猜不對
何謂愛 其實最愛只有誰

為何離別了 卻願再相隨
為何能共對 又平淡似水
問如何下去 為何猜不對
何謂愛 誰讓我找到愛的證據

Photo of the Nanjing Trip

南京之旅拍了好多建築, 好多花...
可是, 我最喜歡的就是這張

在路邊胡亂偷拍的
光圈快門沒想到太多就按下去的
一開始就覺得應是黑與白的...

"MORE THAN WORDS"

清明在南京

因清明節國內有調休, 變了一個三天的長假期, 於是去了南京.
有了高鐵, 旅行實在方便了很多. :)

挺喜歡南京所擁有的長久歷史與文化氣息, 因為裡面都有好多故事.
我很喜歡這些故事.

雖然旅途發生了一些令我覺得討厭的事, 我還是享受著這古都的風景.
而我也非常'應節', 去了明孝陵及中山陵, 懷念某個時代的人和發生的種種.. :P

...還有那些櫻花與桃花海, 漂亮極了.
站在花海下, 看著白的粉紅的花配上綠油油的草地與藍藍的天空, 心情愉快.
終於明白為什麼這麼多人喜歡到日本看櫻花去.



要再找一次機會到南京看花去.
下次, 我要和我愛的人一塊兒去.

self reconstruction @shanghai

在上海已工作了三個多月了, 好快工作便要結束回香港了.

今天在倒數著剩下來在上海的日子, 發覺前陣子確實享受一個人自由自在的生活.
可是有得必有失, 一般家務是少不了的(幸運的是我住服務式公寓, 不用打掃)
但我都好愉快, 尤其是一個人逛超級市場(這裡的超級市場都是非常非常非常的大,我太愛逛超市:P), 在想煮什麼做晚餐的時候...
也喜歡靜靜在屋裡看看書看看雜誌, 挺舒服的.

不知道為什麼在香港的時候, 人便懶惰起來(又或者工作確實是又長又忙又累), 往往下班以後都是往街外跑, 吃也從不會想自己動手煮, 在家裡就只會睡...


...而這陣子我也實在太依賴你了, 忘記了我在這裡就應該學習自己面對自己.
(我也知道你是關心我的,常常弄得我滿感動的)


要好好記住, 這段獨處的時光.
希望把上海有些好習慣帶回家, 學會慢一點生活.

我還在學習面對自己, 學習怎樣去獨個兒面對生活.

P.S.不知道你還有沒有看這裡...只想說, 我們都要努力重新調整自己...
要先處理自己, 才可以和那個懂你的人, 一起走下去... :)